Telling Friends

 Sometimes it is hard to explain that your girl is now a boy. 

Sometimes I feel like just complaining about it because that is almost the expected response. 


However, when I meet another person whi now has a loved one who is non binary or trans, I realize I am doing my child a disservice to do so. 

I admit it. I curl for fun in the winter. I used to curl with two leagues, Wednesday and Saturday. This year I am back to curling at the Saturday league (first year post Covid). But I started many moons ago at the Wednesday league. 

I was talking to a friend there who told me bow her grand daughter became her grand son. 

Her comment was that he was so much more enjoyable now. 

Her only issue was the pronouns. How do you remember to say they/them because it means plural?


I told her about another friend who said to just think of the person as two people. If you think about it, they are two. Born to a male or female focused body, the person has changed their gender or determined they were being associated with the wrong gender. 

This small revelation that I shared made her so happy!  Small miracles do happen. 

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