First Post

 I wrote this awhile ago, but I am posting it now as my first for this blog.

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Just before the beginning of the 2021/2022 school year,  my tween daughter announced she was actually non-binary, with pronouns They/Them.

If I had heard from a friend that their child had announced that I would have probably been rather unaware that it may be an issue (and it should not be generally).

However, as a parent, I found out it sends you on a rollercoaster journey, similar to the death of a close loved one.

My child is still awesome, but I have to admit the last year has been a struggle for me. 

I had expectations that will never occur. I still had to accept that the daughter I had is no longer, or maybe never really was a "daughter".  I have to get used to new pronouns, new ways of dress, new concepts and new clothing requirements.  I have to learn how to navigate this brave new world.

But my child is awesome. My child, whether non-binary, their original gender, or something else, they are still cool. 

My child is full of creativity, and full of love. 

They are still my child.

I have to get accept to who they are and say good-bye to who I thought they were.  It is not easy, but it is imperative.

They are still my favourite person and still the best part of me. 

They have not changed, they are just becoming their most authentic self. 

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